Because Writers Need Support

Does your writing life leave you feelingFor the most part, writing is a solitary endeavor.  It requires us to lock ourselves away from the real world and journey into our imagination. There, we connect with the characters and places that are always bouncing around inside of our heads.  Because of this, writers need relationships with others who enjoy the same pursuits. For some, connecting online is enough.  Others prefer more personal interactions.

As much as our families/friends try to support us, they don’t always understand our struggles.  They don’t get the elation we feel when a scene comes together or grasp the frustration of trying to build an audience.

Other writers do – that’s the beauty of a writers group.

What are you looking for in a writers group?

There are many online groups.  These may appeal to someone whose work schedule makes it difficult to meet up in person.  They are also great for people who prefer communicating via e-mails, Facebook pages, etc.  Another benefit of online writers groups is the ability to connect/network with people from around the world.

Critique groups offer valuable feedback, allowing us to consider assessments/criticisms of our work. These groups are made up of writers with varying degrees of experience.

My writers group is small.  I would describe it as a support group.  We try to meet once a month though sometimes our schedules don’t mesh.  Typically, we will meet at a member’s home or a local restaurant. We may share things we’ve learned, discuss marketing ideas, or ask for advice on current projects. We share our victories as well as our defeats.

Looking for a local group?

Check with your library, coffee shops and bookstores.

 

 

 

Ramsley, a Bad Dream and Me

Remember Ramsley from Disney’s The Haunted Mansion?

You know – the evil butler…

Just in case you don’t, click here.

You’ve got your visual?

Good.

In the wee hours of the morning, Ramsley visited my dreams.  I haven’t a clue as to why.

thelmaI found myself in an old mansion; ghosts were everywhere.  Most didn’t take notice of me but two did.  The Ramsley lookalike wanted to kill me.  Brandishing a meat cleaver, he pursued me, ghost #2 by his side.  Somehow, I managed to evade them. Only, they didn’t give up – there was no escape…  I’d run to a different room, they’d come through the walls…

Until, ghost #2 showed me the door to the laundry shoot.  (Why would he do that?  I don’t know – that’s just how my dream went.)

I jumped inside, slid down the shoot and landed in the basement.  Pausing just long enough to get my bearings, I ran up the steps that led into the kitchen and out the door.

As I made it to safety, I awoke.

I can’t remember the last time I watched The Haunted Mansion. I don’t usually remember my dreams but this one has stayed with me all day.  It’s given me that “icky” feeling – you know the one where you feel like someone just walked over your grave.

I hate that feeling.

I know – It was just a dream.  I don’t know why it’s bothered me so much.  I don’t think it has anything to do with Ramsley, the ghost and I’m not one for all that hocus-pocus mumbo-jumbo, let’s pull out the book to find the meaning, kind of stuff. Maybe it’s jut that I didn’t sleep well…

It’s bedtime now.  I’m hoping when I close my eyes tonight, Ramsley stays away.

Here’s wishing us all a good night’s sleep!

Sweet dreams!

High-Heeled Shoes and Me

I have a love/hate relationship with high-heeled shoes – especially since I can no longer wear them.  If you were to follow me into a shoe store, you might find me eyeing a pair of strappy high-heeled sandals, imagining how they’d look with a certain dress.  Then, I’d sigh and move on in search of a more hip-friendly pair (flats or low heels).  Yep. That’s me, the conflicted 40+ year old woman who can’t seem to get past the fact that as far as I’m concerned, high-heeled sexy shoes have gone the way of the dodo bird.

Originally posted on no-dont.blogspot.com

I’ll be honest, I’m really more of a flip-flop/running shoe kind of girl.  Always have been.  So, it came as a surprise when I found myself missing these beautiful torture devices.  Seriously, who in their right mind misses the toe pinching, arch-aching experience that is high-heeled shoes? I’ll tell you – those of us who want what we can’t have…

The more I think about it, the more I think the love of high heels must be embedded in our DNA.  Don’t think so?  Watch a three-year old ~ a mega watt smile on her face as she steps into those too big pumps and walks/trips across the room.  You’ve seen it.  Seriously, we love pretty things.  We slip our feet into a pair of peep toe heels and we’re instantly transformed into Cinderella on the way to the ball.

And then there’s the movies…

Is there anything that gets under my skin more than the hapless female running in high heels as the bad guy closes in?  I don’t think so.  It’s the one time I’m yelling at the screen – “Take off the d@#% shoes!” Not only will she be able to run faster,  she’s now armed with four-inch spiked weapons.  Hmmm.  That’s an idea – a female pulverizing a bad guy with a patent leather pump.  That would be a twist – might add a little pizzazz to the standard “girl is gonna die” scenario.

 

Book Tour – TRUST by Tim Mettey

I’m thrilled to be participating with the virtual book tour for TRUST by Tim Mettey.

Young Adult Sci Fi
Date Published: October 2013
Nicholas Keller has come to terms with his Thusian heritage and has finally achieved some normalcy in his life. But when new neighbors move in next door at the beginning of his junior year, everything changes. He is launched into an impossible search, uncertain of who to trust, and this time it’s not just his own life that hangs in the balance—it’s the lives of countless others and everyone he loves. 

EXCERPT:

It had been nearly three months since I was told that I was part of an ancient group called the Thusians, the secret guardians of mankind destined to sacrifice our lives at any given time. I would have thought that after finding this out everything would have become really complicated for me, but it hadn’t. It was nice and quiet.

Everything I went through to get to this point was worth it, because now I had Elle. I still couldn’t believe how such a wonderful, amazing girl ended up with me. We were inseparable during the summer. Unfortunately now I was keeping more secrets from her. It was for her protection, but I still hated it.

Elle and I were lying in my front yard under the shade of the towering oak trees, enjoying each other’s company like we had done most of the summer.

“Nicholas, what’s wrong?” Elle asked for the hundredth time.

“Sorry, I’m just preoccupied today.”

“It’s okay. I just wanted to make sure it wasn’t me.”

How could it be her? She was nothing but wonderful, my reason for living.

“Elle, it’s not you. You know that. I’m just thinking about the last interview I did. It wasn’t very good.”

Last year when I confronted the mob of reporters at the school’s entrance, I told them if they would leave me alone I would do interviews. To my dismay, Cora, my aunt and guardian, made sure I did every interview they requested. It had now become the thing I dreaded most. I had to relive the worst day of my life, the 10-10 Earthquake, like it was some recurring nightmare from which I couldn’t wake up.

“Sorry, Nicholas, I know how much you hate doing interviews, but at least that was your last one until next summer.”

In addition to me only doing interviews in the summer, Cora had told the media that I would only answer questions over the phone. She also required that they never say where I live or where I go to school, even though they were camped outside of my school last year telling the world all of that information. Cora thought, better safe than sorry.

Cora had even talked to Ester Theasing, the head of the Thusian Council and a friend of ours, about doing the interviews to make sure it was safe for me because of Xavier and the Seekers who were trying to eliminate me and any other Thusians. Ester didn’t have a problem with it.

Chase Letterby started visiting us more midway through the summer. After the attack last year he left as soon as his doctor talents were no longer needed. No one had heard from him for a while. Even his regular TV appearances had stopped. But as more time passed during the summer, he started to frequent our house again. Cora didn’t seem to mind his company, despite his countless attempts to get her to go out with him. He was fixed on the one woman he couldn’t have, Cora.

Elle and I continued to lie beneath the trees. She went back to reading her book while rubbing my head. Her hand moved slowly through my hair, making me forget all of my worries. With every pass, a wave of relief went through me. I had positioned myself on her lap facing our driveway, so I could watch my new obsession. A large house was being built next door. It was hard to believe that the lot had been completely wooded just a month ago, and now the house looked close to being completed. Cora was not happy about the new house and the new neighbors that came with it. She still wanted our privacy, and the trees surrounding us had given us ample protection, but now they were gone. She even tried to buy the lot, but it had been sold exactly a week after we moved in last year.

The workers swarmed over the site like ants working hard on their hill. It was amazing to see such a large home being built so quickly. For some strange reason it was fascinating to me. I had no interest in design or architecture, but it still captivated my attention.

Cora and I had been in five different houses in six years, but never a brand new house—one freshly built just for us. Our new neighbors were about to get the fresh start I had wanted after the earthquake, but never got. Maybe that was the reason for my obsession.

Meet the Author:

Tim Mettey serves as CEO and Disaster Relief Coordinator at Matthew 25: Ministries, an international humanitarian and disaster relief organization. Tim uses his many experiences and expertise in responding to disasters around the world to set the background for his The Hero Chronicle series. Tim struggles with and has overcome his learning disabilities with reading and writing to create this series, and hopes his journey can be an inspiration to others. He says, “Our disabilities do not define who we are, they make us stronger.”

Connect with the Author:

Website: www.timmettey.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/tim.mettey

Twitter: @TimMettey

Pinterest:  http://www.pinterest.com/timmettey/

Goodreads:  https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/6562334.Tim_Mettey

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Body Language and Writing

Updated 08/16/15

Years ago, my family owned a small business. As any small business person will tell you, customer service is important. Not only did I try to meet our customers needs, I made sure to smile and say thank you. I engaged in small talk and stayed involved with community events.

Our customers were as varied as the products we sold. Most were likable but there were those couple of people who just didn’t make me feel all warm and toasty. I thought I’d managed to hide those feelings only to come to the realization I hadn’t been successful.

After paying for his purchase, the customer lingered, wanting to talk. At some point in the conversation he asked whether he smelled bad. I assured him that he didn’t. He then went on to ask why I kept backing away from him. The truth was that while he didn’t smell bad and there was a counter between us, I felt like my space was being invaded. While my words and facial expression (smile) said one thing, my body language (unconsciously moving away) told the truth of how I felt.

she sat he stoodI have been reading  She Sat He Stood: What Do Your Characters Do While They Talk? by Ginger Hanson.  She points out the importance of studying body language and how our subconscious actions can reveal our true feelings. We can apply this to knowledge when writing dialogue.  She also covers the use of settings and props. Having purchased several writers handbooks and being unable to finish reading them, I was pleasantly surprised to find I enjoyed this one.  Hanson offers a variety of helpful suggestions without putting the reader to sleep.

If you think you could use a little help with dialogue/body language, click the cover image. At only 99 cents, you can’t beat it!

If reading another writing advice book doesn’t appeal to you:

You might try watching old movies.   I find that black and white movies work quite well because there are less visual distractions.  Black & White Movie Nightwatch and learnMake sure to grab a pen and paper to take notes, otherwise, it becomes too easy to get lost in the film. Study the interaction between the actors.  She (feeling vulnerable) might turn away and hug herself.  He (feeling agitated) might lean on a balcony railing while taking a deep drag on his cigarette. The important thing is to recognize the actions the actors use to convey their characters’ feelings. This is ultimately what we as writers are trying to do – show not tell.

Have you stumbled across a tip or technique that has improved your writing?  If so, please share.